I’m bumping this in its entirety because there are still some responding to it and I just want you to know that I really appreciate it. Thanks.
Originally posted 3/15/07
OK. This isn’t an easy post to write. Being a man I can say for sure that I like the idea of finding the answer myself. But I can’t on this one. I don’t have the perspective. Lets just start with this:
I think I broke her heart.
You see, last night we were talking about the church and how messed up the SBC is right now and the Bible and things shifted, as they usually do these days, to salvation and theology and such. Me, being the big mouth that I am, pointed to the Abstract of Principles as sort of an anchor that says to me as a Southern Baptist “We haven’t always been this way.” The problem is that The Abstract is a decidedly reformed document and its not something that’s easily processed by anyone raised up in the Southern Baptist church who is still able to get around under their own steam. Are you reading me?
Now the ‘she’ in question–my dear wife–is a smart girl and it took about two seconds for her to reason her way from predestination and election to ‘God might send my babies to hell and there’s nothing I can do about it. Why did you tell me this!’ Ouch. So I guess I’m a little heartbroken too.
And I don’t know what to do about it. If you knew me at all you would be shocked to hear that I was speechless—a rare enough occurrence as it is—and pretty helpless—which no man likes to admit. It was hard enough for me to get my head around the ideas we were talking about without a stitch of maternal instinct, I can’t imagine how hard those words were for her to hear. Hard or not though the Word of God is sweet and I’m hoping that God can use this weakness of mine, this helplessness to do something delightful. I would dearly love for my sweetie and I to see eye to eye on the concept of God’s Sovereignty. It’s a long shot—Southern Baptists don’t do Sovereignty very well.
So what I’m asking is that some of the reformed women bloggers out there who have dealt with this issue can write about it and say more than “Uh, but God, you know…” which is about all I could come up with.
Surely I’m not the only person who has had this trouble.
So the only thing I can come up with, since most of the reformed female bloggers I’ve looked up have wisely concealed their email addresses, is to tag all of them and let Technorati or whatever do its work—for the Glory of God for a change—and ask them to please post about this and drop me a link in the comments of this post. Let me add that if you’re not on this list and you can write about this as a reformed female then by all means add a link too.
In advance, I thank you, ladies, for your help:
For The Girls
Seasonings of the Heart
A Complete Thought
The Upward Call
Sweet-tea With Lemon
Lux Venit The Doctrine of Election and My Children
Deo Volente Not Because Dad and Mom Say It
Rocks In My Dryer
Reformed Chicks Blabbing